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Life as a bed-bound workaholic. #chronicillness

Stopping work due to ill health usually leads to a feeling of loss and purpose. For workaholics, giving up a career just adds to the grief of a previous life. If you’re also mostly bed bound; it’s almost impossible to give in.

On being a workaholic 

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I’d wanted to teach from age 5 and I loved it from the moment I stepped in the classroom. I was a workaholic, working nights and weekends, to try to make a difference.

Teaching is so much more than a job, you never stop thinking about some aspect and with you take on many roles.

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When I had my boys I worked part time, but was still working a 40-50 hour week. A workaholic is compelled to keep working and creates a life that’s out of balance. Read more here. Being a mum always came first, but I always felt the need to be doing something. Just a workaholic in another role; feeling like I couldn’t do either role justice. In hindsight; I know I gave both roles everything I could.

Becoming Bed-Bound

If you’ve read my story, you’ll know I had to stop teaching when I became ill. When we came to the mutual decision that I should be medically dismissed, I knew it was best for everyone. However, I struggled with the reality of having to bow out, from my bed, with no farewell, after the 14+ years I’d dedicated to my profession. I still wish I’d done more, but I’m proud of all that I achieved and that I had some influence on so many little lives.

We realised that becoming bedbound had a silver lining. I could now just enjoy the most important job I had and put everything I could into motherhood, without throwing life out of balance! We love that I’m more present and less stressed. Now I love hearing the key in the lock, anticipating my boys coming to see me.

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However, as a workaholic, even a bed-bound one with brain disease, I still needed to be DOING something. So I began making jewellery and soon discovered Conscious Crafties Marketplace The site was set up to give those with chronic illness, disabilites or their carers a sense of purpose again. You’ll find this statement on the site’s homepage.

‘A community of talented artists and crafters who are living a purposeful life by changing the way humanity perceives those living with Chronic Illness, Disabilities or Carers of those affected’

This amazing community has helped me connect with others who understand what we’re going through. I’ve made many true friends and am living a purposeful life. But, I’m a busy minded person and so volunteered to help Karen (the founder) run the site. Everyone tells me I do too much, but I thrive on helping others and love organising things. But I was juggling all of this and more, from bed, and it was beginning to impact on our family time, so something had to change!

Breaking Free

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Making the best of family time

I needed to break some of the bad habits I’ve developed over years of being a workaholic. But I have the best motivation; to bring balance in to my life. I’ve looked at my behaviour patterns and found I was spending far too much time on social media. I’m now slowly re-training my brain to know that it’s okay to rest!

Josie from Worry Free told me that ‘My JOB is to heal. By giving me a role/job of healing and rest, I have that all important role we crave and am now a resting workaholic! Such a simple idea, but so effective; I’m already breaking bad habits,  doing less and achieving more. Ultimately I’ll have more quality time to spend with my family.

 

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Skull surgery again #braindisease #iih #iihwarrior

On Friday we took another trip to Cambridge to see the Ear and skull surgeon; or The Wizard as I call him.  He could really see an improvement in me as if not seen him for about a year. It was so nice to hear that, as you don’t always notice what a big change there is over that space of time and he hadn’t seen me since my stent operation in September last year (2016); which we feel had an effect on my noise sensitivity; although I still hear the pulsatile tinnitus and have to wear ear plugs when I’m out of the house. He could also see the vast improvement in my cognitive function that improved after the styloidectomy I had in January 2016 and again after the stent surgery. I’ve only just started noticing these benefits again, due to suffering from that horrid infection for most of February and March and struggling to get over pushing myself to much at Christmas. Everything is feeling very positive. 

It was a very quick appointment as he was just confirming that the next operation is on and what the side effects might be.   He will be removing some of the bone of the C1 vertebrae on the opposite side of the jugular vein to where I had the last bit of bone (the right styloid process) removed. This should open up the area for the blood to flow more easily through my constricted jugular vein; however, I may need a stent put in afterwards to get the full benefits. The side effects are the same as with the styloidectomy; possible weakness of the shoulder, a hoarse voice and other minor side effects. 

Below is a diagram showing the skull. I have highlighted the area where they need to make more room for the jugular vein (allow the diagram shows these areas on the left side of the skull  The Styloid process is on the left of the circle; sectioned off. This has been removed on the right side of my skull. They will be working within the right half of the highlighted circle for this operation. 


We are just waiting for The Wizard’s notes to get to the secretary and then we can book a date and this should be soon as we are very lucky to have private health insurance that covers all my treatment for the IIH. (Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension) 

To say THANK YOU for all of your amazing support for my next skull surgery and for your constant patience and understanding; I am offering a chance to win this beautiful heart jewellery set of necklace, earrings and bracelet. They are all made with blue and green glass pearls.


💚💙💚 FACEBOOK GIVEAWAY 💚💙💚

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💚LIKE & COMMENT ‘yes please’ on my Facebook page to win💙

The giveaway will run until I reach 500 followers or I have recovered from surgery-whichever happens first. There is NO set deadline; however I will give you at least 24 hours notice before I close the post.

So to take part: 

***👍🏻 LIKE the Facebook post

***COMMENT on the Facebook post with the words ‘yes please’ or similar

***SHARE the Facebook post. This is not a requirement for entry but there is more chance that this page will reach 500 likes sooner. It would be a really kind gesture, so a HUGE thank you if you share too! 

****If you’re feeling super kind then you could SHARE my Facebook page too.

I will let you know my surgery date and will post updates when I can. For more information on IIH (Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension) go to: 
To find out more about IIH click here

If you would like to make a donation then please visit: 

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Thank you again, Laura 💚💙

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